It can sometimes be quite easy to allow our fears to consume our lives. Almost daily, many of us find ourselves in situations where there's something or someone we could fear. Whether they are very trivial things or more logical in nature, many of us find ourselves often lapsing into a mindset of fear, anxiety and negativity. We travel on the highway and worry that we might get into a car wreck. We fear for our children as they attend school. Or we fear that we may become ill and not be able to support our families.Though some fears are certainly grounded in solid fact, more often than not, we fear silly things that really aren't worth bothering with in the first place. When fear takes over our lives, it's easy to feel helpless and trapped. So how do we eliminate fear based thinking and discover contentment and peace for ourselves?When I was just beginning to seriously consider establishing myself as an entrepreneur with my own practice, I had a lot of fear and anxiety. Did I really … [Read more...] about The Answer To Fear, How To Shift From A Place Of Fear And Anxiety Into Contentment And Peace
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In everything we think and do, there are only two positions that we are intending and acting from. Fear or love. You can have the same intention or action but it can be either fear based or love based. The same intention or action will have two different effects on reality depending on the kind of energy that goes along with it. When you act and intend out of fear, you attract corresponding conditions created by fear. When you act and intend out of love, you attract corresponding conditions created by love.Thoughts and actions of courage can be fear or love based. Although courage is supposed to be the opposite of fear, yet the perspective of courage can support or negate fear. When you think and act with the mindset of courage that is from a perspective of fear, you are trying to conquer your fears. The intention of becoming stronger than your fears acknowledges the existence of fear. But when you think and act with the mindset of courage that is from a perspective of love, you are … [Read more...] about Intend And Act From A Place Of Love And Not Fear
In recent articles on relationships, their challenges and their triumphs I have discussed how one's one personal history of trauma:1. Reduces one's self esteem, self worth, self confidence.2. Impairs one's ability to be open, honest and relaxed with their partner.3. Leads to a relationship based on neediness and codependency.4. Blocks real intimacy from developing naturally.5. Creates misconceptions of the other's behavior that then leads to unnecessary conflict which undermines the relationship further.One thing that I haven't mentioned, and which is the point of this article is that trauma "shuts down the heart" of an individual. What do I mean by this?Well I mean that it:1. Impairs one's ability to trust others.2. Blocks your ability to feel peace, calm, joyful and relaxed.3. It impairs one's ability to feel and express Love genuinely.Although all of the above are necessary for a strong relationship the last, I'm sure will ring a loud bell of warning.I'm sure you'll recognize, when … [Read more...] about Relationships – Coming From a Place of Love
Myrna, 38 and a successful physician, sought my help because she often felt inadequate. While she really valued herself as a doctor, she did not value herself in her important relationships with friends and family. In addition, she said she wanted to be in a loving relationship but she took no actions to meet available men.In the course of our work together, it became apparent that Myrna rarely took loving action in her own behalf with her friends and family. For example, Jessica, one of Myrna's friends, would often get angry and blame Myrna when Myrna was not available for dinner with Jessica. Myrna would feel guilty and responsible for Jessica's feelings and meet her for dinner even when she was exhausted from work. Myrna would feel drained after these dinners and depressed for a few days after, never realizing it was because she had not taken loving care of herself.Myrna realized that the reason she was afraid to be in a relationship was because she had no idea how to … [Read more...] about Actions of Love
She told you she just "fell out of love" with you. She didn't want to lead you on anymore. She didn't want to hurt you but she couldn't go on living a lie. You've replayed these parting words of hers in your mind every single day since she left. The one thing you want to know is this: "How did she fell out of love with me and can I make her fall back in love with me?" As simple as it sounds to fall in love with someone it rarely happens just like that. At the same time, it's not possible to just snap your fingers or change your mind and fall out of love with someone either. Otherwise relationship counselors the world over would be out of jobs. Love is messy. Love hurts sometimes. But when it's going well, love is the most wonderful experience in the world. It's enough to build monuments, create stunning works of art, write poems that will last the ages, and bring tears of joy on wedding days. Love is as beautiful as it can be heartbreaking. But it is not something that happens in … [Read more...] about How Did She Fall Out of Love With Me – Can I Make Her Fall Back In?