Independence Day is just about here! As a parent, is independence something you're striving toward with your children? Ultimately that should be your goal - to raise children who will become self sufficient adults. That can seem like a far off idea when they are toddling around, but it can also be a silent prayer you whisper while they're teens!!Independence isn't something that just happens by accident though. There are specific things we do as parents to either foster or hinder it at any point in your child's lifespan. Unless you're looking forward to having your 30 year old living in your basement, I encourage you to read on...Self confidence - Your children need to trust that they are good. We begin this process as infants when we laugh at their simple cooing. It continues when they learn to be potty trained. But we sometimes lose our way by the time they begin school. Unfortunately, we put a lot of emphasis on achievements (grades and sports especially) rather than the overall … [Read more...] about Parents – How to Achieve YOUR Independence Day!
Would you let your child wander around unsupervised in an adult bookstore? Without the proper internet parental controls in place, this is what letting your child use the internet can be like. Here are three reasons that proper internet parental controls are essential to your child's safety on the internet.Reason 1: Pornography is pervasive on the internet-There are currently over 4.2 million pornographic websites on the internet. That means 1 out of every ten websites contains objectionable sexual material. This industry needs to hook new customers & targets them at an early age. Over 26 childrens character's names have been used to link to pornographic sites. Furthermore, studies have shown that viewing pornography stimulates the same parts of the brain as crack cocaine does. Once someone is addicted to viewing pornographic images, breaking the pattern can be very difficult to achieve. Internet parental controls can block your babies from this constant barrage of objectionable … [Read more...] about Internet Parental Controls – 3 Reasons Why They Are Essential to Keep Your Child Safe From Predators
"The soul is healed by being with children" - DostoeevskyI suspect that parents, dealing with their kids being home from school over the holidays, might choose to differ on the "soul-healing power of kids." Words like "frustrated" or "challenged" or "driven berserk" are a few of the more polite descriptive words that might come to mind when big people spend school vacation time with the little people in their lives.I sprung Dostoevsky's quote on a young mother of three kids the other day (the devil made me do it) and, she harrumphed "Bet you Dostoevsky didn't have any kids or, if he did, his wife was doing the child care in that household."Still, the presence of children in our lives can bring healing to the soul if we are open to it. Adults are caught up in dealing with future plans and schedules or still nursing wounds incurred in the past. Kids, just because they are kids, live in the present. It's one of their greatest gifts.When we find ourselves wrapped up in what we are going to … [Read more...] about The Soul Is Healed by Being With Children
While June is often associated with summers, pools and vacations, let's not forget Father's Day. Unfortunately, it usually gets eclipsed by Mother's Day. But I think it's important that we take a moment and acknowledge dads and the essential role you play in your kids' lives.Time is your biggest weapon and hardest challenge. All of us are short on it and wish we had more. With the current economy, a lot of us are struggling, trying to find new ways to juggle our money. This may mean working longer hours or taking on an extra job. While keeping a roof over everyone's head is important, make sure you keep things in balance. Let's look at some ways to help you with this...Dads, your kids crave time with you. No, I don't just mean sitting next to you while you zone off watching TV after a hard day. I mean, real, interactive time!Go for a walk Throw a ball around Wrestle Have a conversationThings can be even more challenging if you're a divorced dad who's typically relegated to every … [Read more...] about Daddies – Just How Important Are You?
There is a time in our lives where putting a smile on our face and being nice with one another just stops being "normal".Jane was a lovely business woman whom many adored and thought highly of. She ran a successful company, had what appeared to be the perfect family with the perfect home and a white picket fence. Truth be told, Jane was dealing with an inner conflict arising from her 40 year old son Jake.When Jake was 10 yrs old, he came home from school one day very upset and angry. The teachers could not explain it, Jake would not talk about it but became verbally violent with everyone. Jane and her husband took Jake for years to every Doctor, psychiatrist, any type of physician they could think of for year's trying to figure out what happened that fateful day that Jake came home and all their lives forever altered.There little boy was no longer the friendly little guy they once knew, and thirty years later Jane and her husband were still struggling to keep Jake out of trouble, … [Read more...] about The Forty Year Old Son